Well, the first thing; stop thinking of it as a job. Blow job
when done perfectly can be of a great pleasure to both partners.
As long as both of you are enthusiastic about going down on
this, mouth and penis are good pleasure tools. Many guys enjoy the visual aspect
of seeing their penis go in and out of your mouth. Your mouth is warm and wet,
like vagina, but your lips and tongue are dynamic, movable works of art that
cannot be replaced.
Tips and techniques to giving master blow jobs
1. Take consent
2.
Be enthusiastic
3.
Tease him
4.
Take control
5.
Try some flavored lube
6.
Take it slow
7.
Set some boundaries
8.
Use your lips
9.
Apply pressure with your tongue
10.
Mix mouth and hand
11.
Try different position
12.
Maintain eye contact
13.
Play with the balls
14.
Try edging
15.
Have a rhythm
16.
You enough saliva
17.
Play safe
18.
Have fun
19.
Use a little bite
20.
Play with temperature
21.
Involve your breast
22. Deep throating
Take consent
First thing is to take consent. Even though a lot of people
agree that oral sex is amazing and it’s a great thing to do in bed. Research also
shows that 75% of individuals had receive or given oral sex before. But this is
not enough to assume what another person is into sexually, particularly with a
new partner.
Yes, asking might be a little awkward but unless you’ve
talked about your past sexual like and dislikes, asking a direct question is
how to know if the other person is ready for it.
You can ask in a sexy manner by saying something like, “I really
want to taste your dick right now. Can I?” or, “Do you enjoy being sucked
off?”.
Be enthusiastic
The most complaint about blow jobs mostly has nothing to do
with techniques but majorly the partner’s enthusiasm. The blow job receiver
will have a great time if the know their partner is enjoying giving it.
That doesn’t mean you fake liking it when you surely don’t.
never do something you are not comfortable with just because your sexual
partner asks for it. It is your decision to make.
Tease him
Start by sucking, blowing, licking, stroking and kissing
everything other than his penis to heighten the tension. “Wait until he is
painting, flushed and almost or really begging for it. The wait will be more
than worthwhile”.
Take control
Giving blow job in a healthy relationship may be one of the
most empowering things you do because you’re taking full control of his pleasure.
That might amp up your own arousal too.
Try some flavored lube
To make the experience more appealing to you, lube matters.
It is a game changer in any type of sexual activity. Blow job require a lot of
wetness but producing enough saliva can be challenging. Having a dry mouth
isn’t pleasurable for both partners. To boost wetness and enjoyment, add some
lubricant.
There are several lubrication alternatives available that
can transform your blow job game, whether you like the taste of coconut oil or
prefer an oral lube, just get one. Let it help you with the wetness and the
good taste.
Take it slow
The body is like engine, it takes some time to heat up
during intercourse. Foreplay is what you need to get the engine going.
The time you spend in creating anticipation in beginning
will pay off later on with more intensity. The same goes for blow jobs.
The slower you take things especially at start, the more
you’ll make him squirm.
Try to start with a long intense make out session. Use dirty
talks if you like to get the blood flowing. Take your time losing the clothes,
don’t be in hurry. It can be super amazing to grind against each other with
clothes still on.
Think of the experience as a journey. What makes driving
more unforgettable are the hours you spend listening to the radio and all the
stop and picks.
Set boundaries
Be clear about your boundaries. If you are not into some kind
of oral sex like deep throating, don’t be afraid to say it. Be mindful of what
your body is comfortable doing, listen to your body while giving. Discussing
your boundaries before, during and after sex should be of almost important.
Engage your lips
The “lipstick techniques” gives him some thrilling feelings,
and it’s a terrific way to break things up for yourself. Wrap your lips around
your teeth, this is not a right or wrong technique on how to use your lips on
the penis. Any which way is going to feel great.
Penis, especially the head is filled with nerve endings, and
it is super sensitive most especially when there is a lot of lubrication.
Using your hand, run the head of your man’s penis against
your lips, taking the head of the penis in your mouth for more lubrication.
Apply pressure with tongue
Your tongue is a great tool for blow jobs. You can either
maintain it soft to stimulate using the entire surface or keep it hard and firm
to deliver direct pressure with the tip of the tongue.
Use the tip of the tongue to deliberately lick the head of
the penis while holding the shaft with one hand. Tap lightly or make slow
circles around the circumference. Alternatively, use it to stroke the
frenulum, a very sensitive part on the bottom side of the head of the penis.
You can also use the flat surface of your tongue to lick the
shaft from the bottom to the tip of the penis and down again.
Mix mouth and hand
Even though the lips may be the show’s headliner, the hands
have significant supporting roles. Use your hand(s) to hold on to the shafts of
the penis and the testicles while using your mouth, similar to how you would
when holding an ice cream cone.
Also, add your hands to the mix to change up the
stimulation. And, if your partner is into it, you can use your hands to explore
other surrounding erogenous areas.
Try different positions
The ideal position for blow jobs is whatever position you
feel comfortable with. Whether to be kneeing in front of your standing partner,
leaning over while your man lies on the bed, or any other position you can
think of.
Maintain eye contact
This might seem intimidating, but you don’t need to stare
for a long period of time. Just as you are about to put his penis as far into
your mouth as you can, look up at him. Then, keep your eyes open for a few
strokes or the entire time if you can, taking in all facial cues.
This action is very intimate since it results in the release
of oxytocin, a hormone that strengthens bond, in both of you.
Play with the balls
There are many areas of his body that are extremely
sensitive and can result in mind blowing experience aside from the head and
shaft of his penis. The balls, the scrotum and the perineum (the place between
his balls and his butt). Start by lightly cupping the balls in one hand, then
ask your man if it feels alright. If he requests for more, massage the balls
with your finger while jiggling the sack in your hands.
Try edging
The idea behind edging is that it builds up arousal and eventually
the orgasm will be intense and more satisfying. With edging, you stop yourself
when you are on the verge of going into orgasm. You take a moment to relax,
then you carry out the process repeatedly.
This method can be super amazing during blow job. But make
sure to tell your partner first because it can be so jarring to stop so close
to orgasm if they’re not expecting it.
Have a rhythm
It is a guy-pleaser to lick his penis like you are eating an
ice cream cone, not only does a consistent rhythm assist get him even more
worked up but it also provides you an opportunity to get groove. Building and
maintaining excitement requires a consistent rhythm.
It is important to get the rhythm right. Too slow and your
man might sleep off. Too fast and it will be over before you’ve even got going.
Start slow then increase the intensity. Keep things
interesting by playing with different speed throughout. But if it seems he is
about to cum, try slow down to prolong the pleasure.
Use enough saliva
while everyone has their own moisture preferences, majority
agree that a good blow job requires a lot of saliva. But then, don’t go
overboard to the point that your hand is slipping all over the place, try to do
some sexy spitting whenever the penis starts to feel dry.
To avoid dry mouth,
it is a good idea to keep a glass of water nearby since you never know when
you’ll need it.
Play safe
Even though the chances are slim, many STIs can still be
transmitted through oral sex – even HIV. Before going down, be sure of your
partner’s STIs status and when they got tested last.
The safest way to giving blow job is to use a condom. To
make it spicier, try use a flavored condom. Maybe – BANANA for his BANANA? Yes!
Have fun
You’ve got a groove? Show him you are into it. Your real passion
is what turns people on the most. Your partner will experience more pleasure
from the deed as a result of how much you like it and how well you convey this
to them.
Use a little bite
It may sound a little bit cruel to add teeth to the
activity, but it may actually be super sexy, especially if your partner trust
you. Gently glide the surface of your teeth along his shaft, then trail over
with your tongue.
Play with temperature
With your partner’s permission, play around with ice. Bring
the heat with ice. Yes, adding ice cubes during blow job may be really sensual.
This unusual technique may sound like a blow job urban legend but stuffing
crushed ice into your mouth causes a tingling sensation that can be reviving
due to the contrast between your warm mouth and the frigid ice. Try sucking on
an ice before going down on your man. While you might feel like a chipmunk, the
combo of cold and melting ice makes for a wet, good time. Trust me, just try
it.
Involve your breast
When you hunched over him or looking up at him, this means
your cleavage is also on display. You already know that he adores your breasts.
During blow job, try taking his penis in one hand and tracing it over and
between your breasts.
Deep throating
Some people love the feeling of having a penis in their
mouth and touching their throat. While some do not.
Deep throating is an advance skill because of gag reflex.
Some people’s gag reflex is more easily activated than others, but you can
definitely train it. Practice on frozen ice pop, dildo or cucumber and it will become a lot easier than you think. So, shock
your man with some moment of deep throating.
What to expect when you give blow job
Orgasms are wonderful, but pleasure isn’t dependent on one
happening. So don’t go in with the intention of making the BIG O happen. Not
all blow jobs should or will end in orgasm.
Furthermore, if you’re giving your man a blow job during
foreplay to heighten the excitement, you both might want to prolong the fun by
not finishing on time.
Everything depends on what you both desire in the moment.
How to know if you gave a good blow job
There is no objective way to evaluate if you did a good job
because it depends on what your partner likes and what the intended outcome is.
Making your man cum is not the only sign of a good blow job. You can provide an exceptional blow job
whether the blow job is only to cultivate arousal or to induce orgasm, which is
not the only indication of a good blow job.
If the body feels pleasure and exhibit contentment, then you
know you’re probably on the right track.
It is crucial to remember that ejaculation and orgasm are
not the measures of a successful blow job. Usually, the penis haver who is
receiving blow job will let you know, (oh that’s amazing, go on baby) …. And more
sweet talks. If it wasn’t good, there is every possibility he will ask you to
stop.
Before, during and after blow job communication is very
crucial.
The truth is, it is easier to have sex than to talk about
it, talking during and after sex is an important piece of emotional
vulnerability that only feeds your sex life.
Ask your partner open-ended questions, such as ‘what did you
like about that?’ or what was your favorite part? What one thing do you wish I
include next time?
Have talks with your man about their preferences to make
them feel seen, heard and understood by you.
Take with you
Blow jobs are exciting and fun way to give your man
pleasure. But you should never feel obligated to give one. Every sexual
experience should be a two-way thing, both of you should feel comfortable and
enthusiastic about it.
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